They were unafraid to be physical with each other and described their relationship as "hot, intimate and sensual"-- just without the act of sexual penetration.Unlike David and Constantino Khalaf, 24-year-old Chang Xia made the decision to wait until marriage prior to losing her virginity.For LGBTQ Christians waiting until marriage, masturbation can add a layer of shame rooted in internalized homophobia."Masturbation is a sexual ethic I had to develop through experience," Xia said.
"I don't like to use the word 'sin,' but maybe I would say it's not God's ideal."Related: Christian Pastor Reframes Scripture Used Against LGBTQ Community Michelle, 26, and Rhea, 27 -- who asked that their surnames not be included -- came to similar conclusions.
"It was just me being a selfish diva, wanting the ultimate fairytale of: I'm going to fall in love and marry my Prince Charming, and we together are going to discover everything about each other's bodies, and we can get as sexually experimental as we want, freely, with no negative consequences.
I don't have to compare myself to their past and they won't have to compare themselves to my past."Gonzalez ministers to LGBTQ Christians who hold a range of theological positions on sexual ethics.
The organization, which hosts an annual gathering of LGBTQ Christians, works at the intersections of Christianity, sexuality and gender identity.
More than a thousand people arrive from all around the country and the world for a weekend of fellowship and worship, in addition to regional functions for individuals throughout the year.